Showing posts with label self-care. Show all posts
Showing posts with label self-care. Show all posts

Monday, April 8, 2013

Why We Need To Unplug and Go Outside this Spring!

The other day I read a thought-provoking article in the April issue of Women’s Health Magazine about Vitamin N deficiency. Vitamin N? What’s that? You see, I am a health and wellness nut; I was a med student; I taught nutrition at an obesity clinic; and this year I became a certified wellness coach. This begs me to ask the question 'why didn’t I learn about this in nutrition class?' I was instantly inspired to learn more about this “supplement” and what it could do for my clients’ and my health.

                                   

I am well-versed on the importance of micronutrients, such as fat-soluble A, D, E, K and water-soluble vitamins B’s and C. The term 'Vitamin N' completely intrigued and perplexed me. I had to dig deeper and find out more. What I unearthed was eye-opening. With the advent of technology and living a more desk-bound lifestyle, human culture has become increasingly more sedentary. In my senior thesis, I actually looked at the behavior of obese children and the impact of inactivity on their health. Much of their obesity was attributed to their lifestyle choices: Playing video games, surfing the Internet, social networking, watching movies/TV, doing homework on the computer, etc. I have seen similar parallels in my peers and colleagues who spend the bulk of their day on the computer typing up expense reports, press releases, organizing their calendar, emailing, and/or tweeting from a desk. Being in a seated position staring at a blue screen for eight to ten hours per day would leave anyone feeling unwell. We are not sleeping adequately, eating properly, or taking time to get fresh air—which makes us feel cranky, achy, and uninspired.
                                  

Dr. Louv, author of Last Child in the Woods and The Nature Principle, and co-founder of the Children & Nature Network described this behavior as “Nature Deficit Disorder.” Some doctors now recognize this as a vitamin deficiency and treat it by writing prescriptions for Vitamin N. Patients are literally receiving doctor’s orders to go outside and spend time in nature.


The past few days here in N.Y.C. have been absolutely gorgeous and the weather has me in a better mood. I have been spending my lunch break walking four miles everyday. I am so excited to spend some time playing in the sunshine, just like I did as a child. Growing up as a city kid, I've been exposed to pollution, smog, the aroma of the Staten Island dump, poor air quality, cigarette smoke, traffic jams, etc. I'm not here to complain, I'm here to bring to light something that us city slickers are lacking: Exposure to nature. Personally, I’m always craving the freedom to spend time outside, surrounded by trees, breathing fresh air, walking on grass, and feeling the wind across my face. Have you? 

Dr. Louv gives 10 reasons why children + adults need more Vitamin N:


1) The more high-tech our lives become, the more nature we need.


2) Humans are hard-wired to love and need exposure to the natural world. 


3) We suffer when we withdraw from nature.


4) Nature brings our senses alive.


5) Individuals and businesses can become nature smart.



6) Nature heals.


7) Nature can reduce depression and improve psychological well-being.


8) Nature builds community bonds.


9) Nature bonds families and friends.


10) The future is at stake.


This is why I have always taken my niece, nephew, and the kids I've cared for to the park—because it’s good for them and good for me, too!  We get our daily dose of Vitamin D from the sunshine, our hands deep in the dirt for healthy bacteria and boosting our immunity, and giving our lungs the chance to be oxygenated with fresh, crisp, smoke-free air. This spring, I hope you, too, will take a walk outside and spend more time in nature. You deserve to feel well and like I I said in my previous blog post, I’m determined to help get you outside on May 26th!

                        


xo, health, and happiness,

Noel 
www.SheLivesInspired.com

Tuesday, March 19, 2013

My first time attending the NYC IGNITE tour!

Oh, hello!

So I'm writing this blog WAY later than I planned. Last month I attended a 2-day conference, which left me feeling spiritually inspired but physically drained. Friday night marked the official finish to the first week at my new corporate job. So the thought of waking up at 6am on a Saturday for a long day with no guarantee of a good meal didn't feel appealing.  (See I can be a little negative sometimes...I'm not perfectly positive all the time!) But I wanted to go, I was counting down for the past 3 months since I purchased my ticket. I mean, the thought of seeing Wayne Dyer, Gabby Bernstein, and Louise Hay...now THAT got me out of the bed in the morning.  So I woke up, dressed up, packed up and I was ready to go...up. Well, actually it's down because I live in a building....but it flowed so much more nicely with "up." Mom accompanied me and we were picked up by our dear friends, Blanca and Steve.
 
Me & my Mom 

Steve & Blanca Beyar
I did a lot of thinking on the car ride to the conference. Between working Full-Time, starting my private coaching practice on the side, finishing my certification program, and you know life stuff (Family fun, Laundry doom, food shopping, time for self-care...interesting how this falls last on the priority list, huh? Sound familiar?)-- I couldn't help but think...do I find time for FUN!?  Well, I guess it depends on my definition of fun. To me, attending a conference is enjoyable, I don't think of it as work. I get to meet amazing new people, listen to my mentors, and do something different and uplifting. I'm not sure how many of my peers can relate to this...I'm sure they would much rather spend their weekend in Atlantic City and live it up. Well I decided to live it up by going to the Jacob Javits Center to hangout with women (and some men) that I can more deeply relate to: Personal Development Junkies.  The IGNITE: I Can Do It 2013 NYC event hosted by HayHouse featured 3,000 guests and neary 30 speakers! Thank God I had  the night off on Valentine's Day and the day off for President's Day-- or else this weekend wouldn't have worked for me. Seriously. I would still be glued to the folding chair holding my $10 latte (not a fan of inflated event pricing..but I get it). wondering what day of the week it was! LOL. In an effort to rest and renew, I decided that I would wait a few days to blog about my experience at I CAN DO IT NYC 2013. I have to say it was a great decision: it not only held the space for the creative juices to marinate but it also gave me some breathing room to it helped me put the whole event into perspective.




 Our Crew: Me, Mom, Steve, Blanca
 
Here was the lineup of speakers at the NYC Ignite:
WAYNE WAS MY FAVORITE SPEAKER! Probably because we have all of his books on our coffee table at home. I grew up reading his work, and always wondered what it would be like to see him speak. Well, let me tell you, it was AMAZING. I cried. If you don't already know about Wayne, let's get you acquainted. Wayne is an internationally renowned author and speaker in the field of self-development. He's the author of over 30 books, has created many audio programs and videos, and has appeared on thousands of television and radio shows. Wayne is affectionately called the “father of motivation” by his fans. Despite his traumatic childhood spent in foster homes, Dr. Dyer has overcome many obstacles to make his dreams come true. Today he spends much of his time showing others how to do the same. When he's not traveling the world delivering his uplifting message, Wayne writes from his home in Maui.
Purchase of the Day: Wayne Dyer's "I AM Wishes Fulfilled Meditation CD

Angel Therapist, Doreen Virtue  
Doreen Virtue and her hubby taped her Oracle Card workshop LIVE during her presentation. It was surreal and awesome, check it out the VIDEO

Miracle Maven, Gabrielle Bernstein
Published Author and Speaker Gabrielle Bernstein talked about how to become open, ready, and willing to experiencing miracles in life and how A Course in Miracles changed her life, quoting the text:  "A miracle is a shift in perception from fear to love."
NDE Survivor, Anita Moorjani
In April 2002 Anita Moorjani  was diagnosed with Hodgkin’s Lymphoma and after nearly 4 years of battling the disease, she was taken to the intensive care unit of her local hospital in February 2006 where she was given less than 36 hours to live. Her remarkable near death experience (NDE) and miraculous recovery from cancer has created enormous interest and commentary on an international scale. The NDE tremendously changed her outlook on life. She works on the premise that our inner world (consciousness) is our primary reality, and if our internal state is healthy and strong, then our external world will align itself and fall into place as a result.   
Crazy Sexy Cancer Thriver,  Kris Carr 
Kris was the last speaker on Saturday. I definitely she was the BEST way to end the night. I just love how animated she is when she speaks, and how she can make jokes about having a very serious disease. She led an amazing discussion about PREVENTION and how she became the CEO of her health. She focused on using food to heal our body and prevent  disease. We celebrated her 10 year anniversary of THRIVING with cancer- CONGRATULATIONS ON YOUR WELLNESS!  

Agapi Stassinopoulos

Agapi was so amazing live!!! She made us dance like we were in Greece at an epic party with lots of wine and feta cheese! Deepak describes her best: "Agapi is an authentic, genuine and inspirational speaker who knows how to connect with and move her audience. She brings out the beauty, power and independence of the Greek Gods and Goddesses and the archetypes in
all of us.” - Deepak Chopra, author of Path to Love, The Chopra Center for Well Being

The legendary Louise Hay and Cheryl Richardson. 
 Louise Hay is a pioneer in the field of Self-Help, which is now commonly referred to as Personal Development. Louise was joined on stage during her 1.5 hour talk with Personal Coaching Pioneer and Best-Selling Author, Cheryl. These ladies were MAGICAL on stage together...so funny, candid, loving and truly authentic!
It was an amazing weekend and I even made a new friend named, Kelly. It's so nice to meet someone who is interested in personal development and gets excited by the same topics as I do!

And I have great news! If you weren't able to come last month, you still have a chance to get your tickets! Hay House IGNITE is touring all over the country. And on Oct 26-27th, they'll be back to New York

xo, health, and happiness,
Noel
www.SheLivesInspired.com

Sunday, March 3, 2013

Getting Smacked by a 2x4 and How I Learned to Ask for Help, a Guest Blog

The other day, I woke up and I felt like I was slapped in the face with a 2 x 4 of reality, as I like to say. I had been sinking into a depressive state since the holidays and it finally got to the point where I was seriously considering seeking therapy. It seemed as if my whole world was falling down – I wasn’t having the professional success I was used to, I was feeling the burden of paying for a home all by myself, while in the meantime, wanting to make things so perfect for my fiancĂ© and take care of everything, I was feeling totally overwhelmed.
 
My theoretical 2x4...
 

My fiancĂ© and I are two different people when it comes to education. I have a Master’s Degree while he is still struggling to finish his B.A. almost a decade later. I kept nagging him to go to school, that school was important and I finally got fed up with he didn’t enroll in classes this past semester and didn’t even tell me why. I remember saying to him, “I don’t want to have the power, I want to be part of a power couple,” and telling my friends, “I hate that people may say, ‘Oh, look at her, she is so driven and he is just dragging her down.’” I’ve always been very proud of my professional success as well (something I will get to in a minute) and he has been at the same mediocre job (OK, the job isn’t mediocre, the pay is) for ten years. It wasn’t until reflecting on what one of my friends said to me when I brought up the driven comment that I realized I was measuring him by his professional success – NOT his personal success. There are so many good qualities to him that I was overlooking including the huge fact that he loved me EVEN when I was nagging him and bothering him and making him feel horrible about himself. I had to learn that not everyone – including my fiancĂ© – is like me. It bothers me a lot when people aren’t driven to do something with their lives and I want to kind of shake them and be like “UM, HELLO, You can’t just sit back you have to DO SOMETHING to get the things you want!” But I had to realize that I need to be accepting of people for who they are and what they are. Yes, I still want my fiancĂ© to finish school – and he agreed that he wants to – but I have to let him take his time and do it on his own. Not everyone can do fifteen things at once (I’m not bragging that I can – it’s just how I operate) and some people can only do one. I have to learn not to force them to do more just because I want to or I have.
 
Wisdom from The Beatles

Another thing I had to learn was to ask for help. I was taking on way too much. It was like I was just treading ocean water and I was ignoring the fact that someone was throwing me a life float. I had to ask my fiancĂ© to chip in more. I had to ask him to front some money for a large purchase. And you know what? He did it and didn’t complain. I had just never asked before. I talked to him about making things easier for me and making dinner from now on, since I had such long hours. Not only does he do dinner, but now he does the dishes and everything else to make sure that I have a relaxing night. Sometimes, I have a list of a million errands I need him to do and he does them and doesn’t complain. But instead of making things perfect for him, we have found a balance that makes me feel less stressed, which makes our home life that much better. That life float was right next to me the whole time, but I just needed to find the inner strength to reach out and grab it and accept that it wasn’t being a failure – sometimes we all can’t make it to the boat on time and need to be pulled.
 
Hang on!
 
Professionally, however, I am in a tough spot. I am disappointed and embarrassed that I am stuck in this situation and already looking to jump ship, but I have to. I am in a very unstable environment in every sense of the word and it’s just not a good fit for me and I can tell that only after a few months. I was letting the mood of the venue and the people in it affect my home life. I was coming home angry or on the verge of tears every night, I was having horrible anxiety attacks, I was withdrawing from my friends and I was picking fights with those closest to me because I was having horrible anxiety about going to work. However, I had to find things that made me unwind quickly and I also had to find the triggers that were making me anxious. Once I found those, then I was able to focus myself. I could figure out what about my day was making me unhappy. I also decided that from now on, I would not complain about my job to others. I would act as if I was always on a job interview and be diplomatic, but polite, when asked. By not complaining, it wouldn’t re-iterate the things that I just can’t live with and I would be able to leave them at work. I learned that I need to stop and pause before I do certain activities and take some deep, yoga breaths. I had to learn that I can’t listen to a certain type of music on my home time because it makes me angry, so I took them off my iPod. I had to learn to take my mind off of work on the commute home and play a game or something mindless – not harp on all the bad things that happened. And if I need a glass of wine or two in the process, so be it.
 
Sip.   Breathe.
 
 
I’m not too sure how this all happened to me in the span of what seems like an hour. My own internal wheels were probably constantly churning and then “BOOM” it really all hit me. I know that not everything in life is peaches and cream. I know that people die, that people hurt, that some things are truly terrible, I get it. And I’m not saying that mourning is bad – that’s healthy. I’m saying not allowing yourself the option to win – even if it feels like losing – is just cheating yourself. You need to find your triggers. You need to be able to notice the signs of your negative attitude and do something to block them. You have to learn that other people’s life choices shouldn’t be your issue – whether you are living with them, married to them, friends with them or just met them. And you always have to learn to ask for help when you need it. Don’t be ashamed or embarrassed. In fact, most times people are waiting for you to ask and are only eager and willing to jump in and help. Grab the life float. It’s OK.
  
Ask for Help!
 
This Guest Blog was written by someone very close to me, who wishes to keep her identity anonymous. If, however, this post resonated with you, feel free to comment below and I will be glad to share it with her!!
 
xo, health and happiness!
Noel
 
 
 

Thursday, February 21, 2013

Newsletters, Authenticity, and Some Sisterly Advice for My Fellow 20 Somethings.

Hey there,

It's Thoughtful Thursday!
So I've had Usher's "Confessions Part II" in my head all day since it was playing on my iTunes shuffle during my ferry ride this morning. And now I have my own confession to make: I subscribe to way too many newsletters. Seriously, though. I think I must receive 15 per week. I initially signed up because I genuinely admire the person and their amazing work (whether they're a Life Coach, Famous Author, Motivational Speaker, etc) but when all 15 people start to endorse the same service on literally the same day, their authentic voice gets lost in translation and it feels just plain icky to me.


This week I’ve taken some small action steps to unclog my inbox. First of all, I had to decipher between newsletters that are excessively sales-driven and redundant from the ones that are unique and valuable (in my opinion). The fact that I've unsubscribed from 5 newsletters may seem unimportant in the grand scheme of life, but since I hope to write my own newsletter in the near future--it’s really important that I clarify one of my instrinsic values: AUTHENTICITY.

"What we're all striving for is authenticity: a spirit-to-spirit connection."
- Oprah Winfrey

I am still learning and growing in the field of Personal Development, which involves attending lots of different meetings, conferences, and workshops. During this process of expansion and networking, I’m learning to turn inward and find my own unique voice. This not only helps me get clear on my mission but it helps me distinguish how I provide the best service to you.   To me, it’s really important that I offer consistently valuable content that is in alignment with how I live my life. Yes, I believe in self-marketing and self-promotion, and I do it just as much in-person as I do it online. But there’s something about endorsing others that must feel sincere. Maybe it's just me, but I only endorse other's products and services that I would actually buy myself (Not with the intention that I’ll receive a cut, or incentive for sharing).

I really try to notice and pay attention to the way the newsletter makes me feel when I open it. Does it unnerve and stress me out with sales? Or does it make me feel relaxed and contemplative? Well I can honestly say that there is one newsletter in particular that always makes me feel good. It's written by the Author and Life Coach, Christine Hassler, who is an expert in "Gen Y" (aka MY generation- those who were born in the 1980s).

Christine Hassler

I love the tone of Christine's voice and the way she writes. She speaks in a very down to earth manner, but her wisdom comes through so powerfully. I also love that she consistently sends original, authentic and purposeful content to my inbox every Thursday. When I saw the title, "What I Would Tell My 20-Something Self" in my inbox, I instantly decided to open and actually read today’s newsletter. Being 25 years old, I was intrigued and I knew I would get something out of reading it. On the off chance that all three of my older sisters read my blog, I have to be super careful not to offend them by saying how much I love Christine's advice. By the way, I am so blessed to have THREE older sisters: Heather, Christine, and Allison--who are all older than me by at least 13 years. (Okay, totally just crossed the line. Now they will DEFINITELY be mad that I pulled the age card!) Not only are they smart, beautiful, and funny...they are rich with wisdom about their own different types of experiences, relationships, and milestones. But, let's face it, they are busy ladies and when they aren't available, I outsource to Christine who really “gets” the 20-something mindset. ;)

 

Here are  my favorite tidbits from Christine Hassler's newsletter today:


Rejection is God's Protection. You can't always get what you want but you do always get what you need - just not in the form or on the timeline you may have expected. (My sister Christine has said something similar before.)

Your parents are people too with issues and triggers. They are getting used to having an adult child just as you are getting used to being an adult. (This is POWERFUL! I’ve never heard it in this way. It deeply really resonated with me and my relationship with my Mom.)

The decisions you are making are not all forever decisions. I know you feel so much pressure to figure it all out right now and everything feels like a major decision. It's not. Choose what feels the best for RIGHT NOW and trust you will learn from each choice you make. (Reminds me of something my sister Allison would say.)

Cultivate your friendships. They will become the family you get to choose. Find friends who will grow with you and let go of the friendships that have reached their expiration date. (The first half  of this statement is something my sister Heather ALWAYS tells me, the second half I'm often saying to her... haha!)
 ...
So...what do you think of those tips?
How are you being your most authentic self?
Anyone else in their 20s who can relate?
XO, Health, and Happiness!

Tuesday, January 22, 2013

Tell me more about Reiki Healing!



As I mentioned in my previous post: Keep Calm and Get Reiki I have opened up my own Private Practice in Energy Healing and Reiki, serving the local community in Staten Island, NY. I am honored to accompany my clients on their journey to self-discovery and enlightenment. My deepest desire is that all whom I serve embody their fullest potential for love and light. If you are interested in Reiki Healing, I invite you to connect with me through my website: www.SheLivesInspired.com

If you aren't familiar with Reiki, I'd love to give you a brief introduction to this wonderful form of energy healing. 

   
 The word Reiki is made of 2 Japanese words:
       Rei = "God's Wisdom or the Higher Power" +  Ki = "life force energy"
 Reiki = "spiritually guided life force energy."
Reiki is an ancient Japanese technique for stress reduction and relaxation that promotes healing. It is administered by "laying on hands" and is based on the idea that an unseen "life force energy" flows through us. If one's "life force energy" is LOW, then we are more likely to get sick, feel anxious and stressed. However, if one's "life force energy" is HIGH, we are more capable of being happy and healthy.
A Reiki treatment feels like a wonderful, glowing radiance that flows through and around you. Reiki treats the whole person including your physical body, your emotions, your mind and your spirit-- creating many beneficial effects that include relaxation and feelings of peace, security and wellbeing. Reiki is a simple, natural and safe method of spiritual healing and self-improvement that everyone can use.  It also works in conjunction with all other medical or therapeutic techniques to relieve illness side effects and promote recovery. While Reiki is spiritual in nature, it is not a religion.  The practice of Reiki was developed to help people realize that healing the spirit by consciously deciding to improve oneself is a necessary part of the Reiki healing experience. In order for the Reiki healing energies to have lasting results, the client must accept responsibility for her or his healing and take an active part in it.   


To learn more about Reiki, visit: International Center for Reiki Training


If this post resonated with you, feel free to drop a comment below. I'd love to connect with you! 
Warmest Love and Light, 
Noel

Warmest Love and Light to you!
Noel